arguments are inevitable in marriage

Many issues that arise during a marriage provoke anger or resentment, and if these disappointments accumulate, in time they will explode into a full-blown fight. We are all entitled to our opinions, but differences in opinion can lead to difficulties in any kind of relationship. It is unrealistic to think that you will never have a fight or a heated argument with your spouse. Experts agree that occasional blowouts probably do not cause lasting damage to a marriage, as long as they do not involve abuse or occur frequently.
There may come a time when you feel that your marriage is falling apart due to the frequency of your arguments. But don’t despair. There are things you can do to strengthen your marriage once again. Keep in mind that most fights can be worked out and that not every contentious discussion needs to be a call to war.
Fight Fair
In marriage, arguments are inevitable. But you are in control over how you manage them. Fighting dirty will hurt your marriage, while fighting fair will help you resolve the issue.
How do we fight fair? First, we must have boundaries for what is acceptable and unacceptable-for example, unacceptable behaviours include name calling, making cruel personal remarks, or insulting one another’s families. And we must respect those boundaries, even in the heat of an argument. Second, we must listen to each other and try to put ourselves in each other’s shoes, to feel what the other may be feeling.
Be willing to admit when you’re wrong. Don’t insist on winning every argument-this kind of prideful attitude will only hurt your marriage. If an issue is not that important, don’t be petty. Just let it go. Choose your battles carefully. Remember that no one wins if the marriage ends because you can’t stop fighting over inconsequential things.